mylifebyandrearaven

All of us girls love lingerie, thats a fact. There is always something special about lingerie, I suppose is is partly because it is the polar opposite of mens underwear. But lingerie these days as lovely as it is, does not appeal to me as much as that of the 50's and 60's. I suppose it is partly because we all like to be a bit nostalgic and imagine that everything was better in those far off days. Lets have a bit of a history lesson, after the war most of the goods sold in the UK had to conform with the 'Utility' regulations, these regulations were introduced in 1941 to control the amount of material used in the manufacture of products, by cutting out unnecessary use of materials. These regulations covered everything from clothing, furniture, footware, even the shape of the roofs of buses. All had to be designed to use the minimum of materials and at the same time be made to a high quality to ensure a long life. In general as far as I can tell 'utility' prod...

For this third interview I am very pleased to introduce Cimbie Browne from the South East of the UK 1.How do you describe yourself, (crossdresser, transvestite, trans gender) ? Aspirationally I consider myself to be a transwoman, since childhood I have never accepted my birth gender. I do find it difficult to attach a label to myself on the other hand and think I’m just me.  2. How long have you been crossdressing? Like most of us, I started at a very young age, the whole thing, clothing, makeup lingerie of my mother’s held a fascination for me from an early age. I came across a lipstick of my mothers when I was around seven or eight and I was compelled to try it on. It felt and tasted lovely wearing it. This ecstasy was tempered with a feeling of guilt that burdened me for so many years. I really thought I had a mental condition and regularly set myself targets of stopping by certain milestones in my life. In those early days there was no source of reference and ...

I was recently asked a very interesting question by a lady friend which has made me think about what us crossdressers do. This was the question: "Most crossdressers I know go out of their way to be as glamorous as they can - and succeed. Even though I am married, I dress to attract the opposite sex. Yet 9 out of 10 crossdressers say they are not interested in men. Odd! You'd think they would want to experience the full feminine experience, wouldn't you? But most seem to draw the line against experiencing men. Any thoughts or views?" Firstly to answer this question I can only talk about myself, other crossdressers may have a different view on this subject. My first thought on this is that I am not attracted to men, and this would be the response from many, also I am not interested in any sort of relationship apart from pure friendship. I am aware that this does not answer the question, but, when a woman goes out for the evening looking fabulous she is not necessari...

We all have friends, some more the others perhaps, but we all have friends, people we have met along the way that we enjoy seeing and being in their company. But for a closeted crossdresser, as I was for many years, finding a friend that you can share the crossdressing side of your life with can be very difficult. Most of us turn to the internet in an effort to find someone who we can chat to, but of course as we all know that can be fraught with difficulties, not the least being certain the person you are talking to is who they claim to be . But if you can get past that real friendships can develop, and I have been very lucky to find some very good friends this way. Sometimes a very special relationship can develop something much more special. A year or so ago I answered a post on an on line forum from a genetic lady, who I shall call Chris, she had recently discovered her partner was crossdressing. I offered to answer as many questions as I could, from my perspective of course, ...

On Friday the 9th of August I joined some friends for a night out at Pink Punters, a TG friendly night club near Milton Keynes. This would be the eighth time I have attended their "Big Night Out" and every visit has been a great success.  I arrived at the Campanile Hotel which is just across the road from Pinks at about three in the afternoon. After booking in and finding my room I quickly changed into a skirt and top as I had arranged to meet Penny for a drink in the bar. The first time I came, venturing out of the hotel room into the corridor was a heart stopping moment, but now it seems so ordinary, with my bag over my shoulder I made my way to the bar.  As always the bar staff are very friendly and treat all the girls just as they would treat anyone else, no matter what they are wearing, and I have to say on some occasions even I have been surprised with what some people regard as suitable clothing! Anyway drink ordered I sat at the bar, if you have...

Transition is not for me, to be honest I don't think it ever has been even if circumstances during my early life had been different. I admire and support anyone who choses the transition route, it is an immense undertaking fraught with difficulties. Apart from the huge commitment and risks involved, why would I want to? Yes it would be nice to have my own boobs, but as I am not full time I suspect there are times when they would get in the way! At my time of life, I now just want to enjoy myself, so I can see little point in putting myself through the long and difficult process. Transition is promoted by some as the panacea for those who want to become the woman of their dreams, it may be for some but transition is clearly not the be all and end all. It obviously works for a lot of people, the fabulous April Ashley is a prime example, but sadly not for all. Gender reassignment surgery is a complicated procedure that, to be honest I don't know much about, but it is a proced...

Lots of blogs, T-Girl web sites and forums talk about 'passing' but what does 'passing' really mean and more importantly what does it mean to a crossdresser? So lets have a look...... Passing to most of our community means a crossdresser that looks to all intents and purposes like a genetic woman. There has always been a lot of discussion on this subject and to many, it would appear, it is the Holy Grail, the one thing that must be achieved above all else. However it seems to me this is becoming much less important to many girls. As crossdressers, at least for me, when we go out into the world we want to be accepted as we are, and to do that we feel we have to 'pass', the problem is what is the standard for 'passing'? What do you base your standard on? The simple answer to that is there is no standard mostly because genetic women come in all shapes and sizes, tall, thin, not so thin, small feet, large feet, well endowed, flat chested the list is endl...

It is often said (by crossdressers) that women can wear any clothes they like, wether it is female orientated or not but men are restricted to ‘man’ clothes only and this is not really fair. Well lets take a look at this subject In Helen Boyd’s book ‘My Husband Betty’ she states, quite rightly, that when women wear jeans, they wear jeans cut and designed for women and so therefor are not crossdressing. In a similar vein elsewhere in the book she says that when women were required to work in the munitions factory during the second world war they wore trousers as that was the most suitable piece of clothing for the job and therefore were not crossdressing. Both these observations are perfectly valid and I would have no argument with them. In industry here in the UK and I suspect many other places as well, women are increasingly taking on roles traditionally carried out by men, it is no longer uncommon to see women on production lines, working in the construction industry or ...

This our second interview with a crossdresser, features Sandy Dupont who is from the West of England 1.How do you describe yourself, (crossdresser, transvestite, trans gender) ?    Crossdresser.  I sometimes use the term Transgender but because the term can also apply to trans-sexuals (which I am not) I prefer to use the CD term as it describes me better. 2. How long have you been crossdressing?    Most of my life to some extent.  I know that I first started dabbling when I was 5 or 6 years old.  Since then the desire to dress has come and gone but never gone away completely.  It has become more intense over the last ten years or so. 3. Acceptance was for me, the turning point, once I had accepted who I was my life changed. What about you? When did acceptance come to you, how did it change your life and outlook regarding crossdressing?    I don't think I have ever had a problem with acceptance as I have never fel...

As a crossdresser I look at women differently to other men, that is to say when I see an attractive woman walking along the street I don't adopt a typical male response. Firstly I would like to say I am attracted to women, I do not find men remotely attractive, in fact I find it hard to see what anybody could find attractive in a lot of men, but that's probably just me!  This subject came into my mind while traveling during work (in male mode) with a co-worker, as we were driving along in the morning traffic, my male companion spotted a young woman probably in her late twenties walking along the street toward the station, "thats really class man" he said pointing her out to me. She was about five foot six or so, had shoulder length straight blond hair, short skirt and heels, I doubt if my friend noticed anything else about her, his male instinct had received enough information for him to make his comment. The fact he referred to her as 'that', said ...