mylifebyandrearaven

One of the easiest ways for a crossdresser to give herself away is to speak! As it is almost impossible in this world to do anything with out speaking this is somewhat of a problem. A number of crossdressers have mastered the art of changing their voice to sound completely female, if you look on You Tube I am sure you can find a couple of examples, but these in reality are few and far between. 
Without proper training and a lot of practice, most crossdressers will never achieve a truly believable female voice. Many go for a higher pitch, well if you can manage it thats a start, but in reality could you keep it up for hours? I have looked at this, tried various suggestions as to how I could change my voice and all of them are a lot of work, hard to keep up for long periods and none produce a convincing 'female' voice, at least with me anyway.
If you look at You Tube you can find plenty of examples of crossdresses (MtF) who clearly talk in a higher tone, almost squeaky voice. Firs…

This time we meet my good friend Susan Taylor 'Susie' from the South of England


1.How do you describe yourself, (crossdresser, transvestite, trans gender) ?
Labels actually don’t bother me to much as I think of myself as being me, I suppose if a label was to be attached transgender would be it.
2. How long have you been crossdressing?
I started later in life it was about 2002 it all started with a bit of fooling around in the bedroom which grew over the next 6-8 years which after realising what I was answered a few of the feelings from younger times  
3. Acceptance was for me, the turning point, once I had accepted who I was my life changed. What about you? When did acceptance come to you, how did it change your life and outlook regarding crossdressing?
It was about 10 years ago and reading other trans blogs and stories that I realised what I was, or at least realised I was not alone or a freak in the way I felt. The biggest acceptance was when my wife accompanied me on a weekend aw…

Because of the global pandemic caused by COVID-19 many parts of the world have been in lockdown, restrictions have been placed on where we can go, what we can do, who we can see and to some extent what we have to wear. To someone who has been crossdressing most of my life, this scenario sounds strangely familiar.
For most of my life, I have been restrained by various and complex reasons why I can't be the person I want to be. Because of the way society regards crossdressers in general, I have been in virtual lockdown for many years. Every crossdresser is different, there are different circumstances affecting what they can and can't do, this is related to their personal circumstances, where they live, where they work etc. etc.  The one thing we all have in common is that we can not always be the person we want to be when we want.
Now that the world has started to tentatively come out of lockdown, it would be time to reflect on what the restrictions have meant to us and what we ca…

I was asked a question the other day by a non trans male "What does it feel like when you dress and do you feel like a woman?" 


So taking the second part first. This is a hard thing to get my head around. The phrase "A transgender woman is a woman" is, in my mind important and meaningful, but do I feel like a woman? Well the answer is I don't know, as I don't know what a woman feels, or anybody feels for that matter. What I do know is what I feel, how that compares with a genetic woman I don't know.
A lot of crossdressers will tell you 'it's not just about the clothes, it's much more than that', which of course is completely true, they often go on to say 'dressing is an expression of their femininity' which again is true. But the clothes play an enormous part, certainly in my life, I love women's clothes and always have. The differences between traditional male and female clothing is obvious, but in the modern world those diffe…

With the continuing lockdown here in the UK many of us are at home, frustrated by being unable to do the things we want to do but realising the need to stay at home in order to minimise the risk of the virus spreading. 
The good thing about being at home is that I don't have to get up at 05.00 in the morning to go to work, the day is much more leisurely and I can basically do as much or as little as I want to. It also give us that precious commodity that we never seem to have enough of, time..........Having more time is a good thing, it gives you time to think, again a good thing. But it also means you have time to go over some of the less pleasant times in our past. 
And  so it happened to me, only a week or so ago, I ended up discussing a period in my life that was extremely painful at the time, and as the far reaching consequences have yet to be resolved, continues to this day to be difficult for me at times. I am not going to go into the details, but it came very close to destro…

This time by way of a change we have an
interview with my dear friend Emma......


1, Tell us a little about yourself, who you are, what you do.
Well Andrea, for the benefit of your readers, I am Emma Benitez and I am the proprietress of a couple of online vintage lingerie stores, DreamDate andNylon Nostalgia, vintage aficionado and lover of the most adorable lingerie. Since taking a degree in Fashion & Dress History at university I have worked as a fabric specialist for a modern lingerie manufacturer
2, You deal in vintage lingerie, why do you think there is a demand for these products?
I still think there is a need for glamour in peoples lives.
3, In your professional opinion, in terms of quality do you think vintage items are better than similar products available today?
On the whole, vintage lingerie is by far superior in quality to a lot of modern mass-produced lingerie. Way back in the 50's and early 60's most people couldn't afford to keep replacing their undies so they…