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The Dress

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  I have always had a thing about wedding dresses, I suppose that could be common for lots of people, both male and female, because they are in general the most spectacular dress a woman will ever wear, and of course on that special day only the best will do. I think my interest was aroused when my eldest sister got married, over fifty years ago now, as a young boy with more than a passing interest in all things feminine the wedding and bridesmaids dresses held a fascination for me. Obviously I never had a clue as to why an outwardly run of the mill boy would have such an interest, I never discovered the reason for that for decades. But the interest was there, I never saw the dresses before the wedding, so it was something special for me on the (very cold) day.  I had to go in a boring suit and tie, my Mum even had to bribe me to wear it!  I did try my sisters dress, long after the wedding, which was a lovely experience, nobody knew of course and I had no idea at the time why I had thi

Another Great Night Out

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 From the title of this post, you would be forgiven for thinking I get out and about on a regular basis, alas due to a number of reasons this has not been the case. Wherever you are in the world you almost certainly have had some restrictions due to the COVID pandemic that has swept the globe. Here in the UK we have had numerous lockdowns and restrictions placed upon us, which given the circumstances is quite right. But it does make getting a night out very difficult, as if it was not difficult enough! Anyway after a gap of almost nine months I managed a night out with the girls, originally the format was to have been the same as before, meet Friday afternoon for drinks then change and an evening meal. However this time as it had been so long since we were all together we decided to add another evening, so we stayed Saturday night as well. This meant that we also had the whole of Saturday to enjoy in girly mode as well.  I prefer to arrive at the hotel in male mode and then take my tim

Fraternal Birth Order Effect

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 I came across this on the internet whilst looking for something else, this is an interesting phenomenon that has I believe a bearing on the life of a crossdresser, me in particular. Fraternal Birth Order Effect (FBO) is the result of a study of 12,000 men in America, the researchers were looking into the effect older siblings may have on a person, with particular interest in homosexuality. I won't go into all the details, you can find it very easy on the web, but essentially they discovered that a male with an older brother was more likely to be homosexual and this effect increases with the number of older brothers.  However the trial also discovered that the effect does not increase with sisters older or younger and younger brothers do not increase the effect. In numbers terms, each older brother increases the chance of being homosexual by 33%, in overall population terms, that rates the chance of being homosexual from 2% to 2.6%. Analysis suggests that between 15% and 29% of gay

The Art of Gil Elvgren

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  Gil Elvgren (1914 - 1980) may not be a name you know well, but it is almost certain you have seen some of his fabulous work. He was a prolific commercial artist that produced illustration for calendars and advertising, working with oils on canvas the resultant paintings are truly magnificent. Nothing demonstrates the glamour of the 1950's more than Evlgren's wonderful illustrations. His work depicted beautiful women in an American utopia where everything was just fine.  The illustrations were primarily for advertising and calendars and as such were intended to depict someone the viewer found attractive and perhaps aspired to. He did some nudes but most of his output depicted women in beautiful clothes, with fantastic hair and makeup. These were true glamour pinups that teased the viewer, sometimes a little bit saucy and often showing a touch more than a girl would want to reveal. Ladies in their underwear were also frequent subjects with the lingerie superbly painted. His met

Diana Thomas

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 I read an article in the Daily Mail newspaper here in the UK a while ago about a trans woman called Diana Thomas. I wont go into the full details of the article as you can read it here:  https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9280379/DIANA-THOMAS-spent-six-decades-man-does-say-trans-militants-stoking-intolerance.html The thrust of the article is really about how trans is dealt with by institutions, which in this case is the local health authority. The story concerns Brighton which is one of if not the most trans friendly places in the UK. It appears there are a number of trans-men who retain they female reproduction system from birth and wish to have a baby. In order to avoid upsetting potential trans-men they have changed some of the terms used, for example the maternity unit is now 'perinatal services' mothers are referred to as (gender neutral) parents and apparently the term for breast feeding is now chest feeding. As Diana says in doing this the health authority are ig

A Photo Tells No Lies

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I love photography, I have thousands of photos on my computer, in the past, not so much these days, I printed a large amount of my work and often had it hanging on the wall, but as I say, not so much these days. That change was largely due to me losing interest, and being far too busy with work and life in general. I suspect millions of photos are taken every day around the world, it is so easy these days with a reasonable smart phone to capture life as it happens. Most photos probably go no further than the phone, but lots do surface on social media and many on photo sharing sights such as Flickr. They used to say a photo tells no lies, well that may have been the case in the days of black and white film, when press photographers took the photos and processed them before wiring them to the newspaper. The days when an accused person would be huddled into court with a blanket over his head to protect his identity. In general what the photo depicted was the real thing, but even then ther

The Curse Of The Crossdresser

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Do you think crossdressing is a curse? Thats a question I have answered in different ways during my life, but is it really a curse? When I started crossdressing as a young boy I was just enjoying myself, I had no idea what I was doing or indeed why. Apart from the risk of getting caught, there was very little that I had concerns about. But as I grew older the crossdressing started to become a problem, no matter how hard I tried, it would just not go away. Then for various reasons I didn't crossdress for about twenty years, I had left that part of my life behind, crossdressing was just one of those things I did a youngster, just one of those thing you do as you grow up. Then it came back, stronger than ever, at first I enjoyed the thrill of it all again, but this was not right, this is not something a man of my age should be doing. I tried to convince myself I was just being stupid and should grow up! This is when it became a curse, the urge would come, I would give in and t

A Great Night Out!

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 In these days of global pandemic, getting out at all can be a difficult exercise, to get out for a meal with a couple of other 'girls' has been more like a military operation. In the past we have favoured TG friendly venues, but because of this virus thingie, that is not currently an option. So we have elected to frequent more mainstream establishments, as it happens before the first lockdown here in the UK, we had decided to explore non TG places in order to broaden our horizons.  And so it was, in the last four months or so we have managed to get out three times. The most recent was at the end of November (2020) just before the UK Government imposed Lock down 2. We elected to use a hotel that had a suitable restaurant next door, not a place we had frequented before, but it belonged to a large chain and so should fit the bill. I have to say I was a bit apprehensive as to how we would be accepted in the restaurant , but as it turned out I should not have worried. The staff wer

Life Changes

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There are times in our lifetime when something happens that changes your life for ever even though we may not realise it at the time. Fifty two years ago the weekly magazine Titbits produced an article entitled 'She Men'. The front cover of the magazine had a photo of a young woman with the headline "This Is A Man" 'Read the incredible facts inside'. The only thing incredible was that, looking from todays perspective, there was very little fact at all. This was a typical bit of sensationalist reporting which even by the standards of some of todays tabloids was pretty poor. So why was it so important?  This was long before the invention of the internet, if you wanted to find out something you had to read a book, if you could find one on the subject you were interested in. For a young person confused as to why he wanted to dress in women's clothes finding an article which shed some light on the subject was like manor from heaven. Up until this point the only

Stockings

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Hosiery is a very special thing, as we all know there  are three basic types; stockings, tights (panty hose for our US readers) and hold ups. But the one that alw ays seems to create the most interest is the stocking. As someone that has always had an attraction to hosiery, partly from a personal view in that I like the feel of them but also without a doubt they make legs look better. Nowadays however there seems to be a fashion, particularly among the younger generation to go 'bare leg' and forgo the delights of wearing hosiery. In hot sunny weather, particularly if the person happens to have lovely tanned legs I can completely understand that point of view, but at other times I still think a nylon clad leg looks better.  Stockings have a special place for many, but it seems, to me at least, to be a declining market. From what I can see from a personal point of view, is that the majority of women do not wear stockings, at least on a regular basis. Now I have to be honest here