mylifebyandrearaven

My last few posts have, through necessity, been somewhat  depressing, the situation here in the UK has not improved and we are having to fight on a political level to ensure our voices are heard and the detractors do not banish us out of society completely. However all is not lost, as far as I can see the Great British public either have no interest in us, are not bothered or seem happy to see us around and many are very positive when they engage with us. The important thing as far as I have experienced it is not hostile, just the opposite. At the beginning of the month (June 25) I spent four days in the Cotswolds area of the UK. It is a lovely area to visit and throughly recommended for anyone who loves the British country and  beautiful historical villages. Our break started with an evening meal in a very nice restaurant in Banbury, a place we have visited several times before and have always had a fabulous time. Once again the staff were superb the meal was up to the usual ...

 I hope you are all feeling well, the recent Supreme Court ruling here in the UK and the subsequent interim guidance from the Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) was not good news for Trans people here. The EHRC is now in the process of a consultation on the changes to the guidance which in due course will have to be approved by Parliament unless it is rubber stamped by the Minister for Women and Equalities Bridget Phillipson. The consultation itself is controversial in that the EHRC originally only planned for a two week consultation period but under pressure extended that to six weeks which is still half the normal 12 week period. It would seem the government is determined to push these changes through.  Sadly the incumbent ruling party (Labour) who supported Trans people prior to last years election, when they needed our votes, now seems to have thrown us under the bus. I can't emphasize how serious this is for the Trans population, not only here but in other countr...

 Since the UK Supreme Court ruling and even more serious the 'Guidance' announced by the so called Equality and Human Rights Commission (EHRC) I have never felt more under threat, the Trans community is under attack, elements of the society we live in are trying to make us disappear. This is a difficult time for all of us, yet I feel more emboldened, they will not defeat us.... The fact is we have been around for thousands of years in almost every culture in the world, yet the anti Trans people and it would seem a good number of politicians (even those that claimed to support us when they needed our vote) are ignoring history. This seems particularly poignant this week here in the UK when we are being urged to remember history and never forget the lessons of the past. But not only is this week the 80th anniversary of VE Day (Victory in Europe) today as I write this May 6th is the 92nd anniversary of the Nazi raid on the worlds first gender and sexuality clinic, but even 92 year...

  The recent Supreme Court ruling here in the UK that only CIS women (i.e. assigned female at birth) are women in the eyes of the law, meaning that Trans-Women irrespective of whether they have a Gender Recognition Certificate, have female on their passport and driving license are no longer women in legal terms. Even a Trans -Woman who has medically transitioned are not regarded as women.... How can this be right?  The sight of seeing two women jumping for joy outside the Supreme Court made me feel sick, I don't know what they think they have achieved or what the real reason for the legal challenge was, but one thing is for certain it was not Justice... According to the Oxford English Dictionary justice is defined as " A concern for justice, peace and a general respect for people " In this case  (in my opinion) justice and respect has been ignored. The people bringing this challenge and the Supreme Court itself has not only inflected untold damage on the rights of Trans-W...

  This may seem a silly question, bearing in mind I label myself (if I have to use a label) as Trans Gender, the reason I am posing this question is because I recently read a book by Debbie Hayton entitled "Transexual Apostate My journey back to reality". Ms Hayton is a "transexual teacher, journalist, trade unionist and commentator on trans and gender issues". Without going through the book in it's entirety, I am just going to mention a couple of points, she tells in some detail about her Gender Reassignment Surgery, the problems and eventual successful outcome, later in the book she asserts that gender, as it can not be defined does not exist. I am a firm believer that everyone has the right to their own opinion and to express that opinion, however that doesn't mean I have to agree with their point of view. So, back to the question, Does Gender Exist? Let's start at the beginning, the Cambridge English Dictionary defines Gender as: " A group of pe...

At the end of last year I said I would be posting much more in 2025 than I did in 2024, well we already in March and I haven't managed a single word.......  The problem has been, I have been struggling to put my thoughts into some sort of order. We are in a dangerous world, more now than ever before it would seem, Trans people all over the world are under attack, either physically or mentally. Healthcare has been withdrawn, particularly here in the UK for young people who must be finding it incredibly hard at the moment. Around the world there is a rolling back of Trans acceptance, partly fuelled by the events in America and the antics of the President and his henchmen. Here in the UK, things have changed, some politicians have made a marked shift away from support of Trans People in some cases allying themselves to anti trans groups. This is very short sighted, they seem to forget that they work for the population of this country and therefore have a duty to support everyone ...

Well we have managed to get to the end of another year, for me it has been a great year with many lovely experiences. However if I did have and end of term report it would definitely say "Must try Harder" I have only posted a few times this year but intend to do much better in 2025.  Personally 2024 has been a good year, I have been out into the real world a number of times, each time has been fabulous, with only positive comments form people I have met. My dress collection has grown to the extent that I can't physically get anything more into the wardrobe, chests of draws and various storage boxes....... Something that will have to be addressed in the coming year. I hope your year has been good for you and I wish you health and happiness in 2025.....

The title of this post will be a familiar thought to many, this thought has passed through my mind countless times, it has been with me for as long as I can remember. Unlike some, I never thought I was born in the wrong body, given the wrong gender by society, certainly but the wrong body? no. I believe my gender is female and always has been and as such this is genetic, I was born this way. But if that is true and I am certainly not the only one, this genetic manifestation is a natural part of human development.  Looking into history there is plenty of evidence of what we now regard as transgender or non-binary going back thousands of years. Doing a search on the internet will throw up countless documents to support this, but if this is the case why is it such a problem for many to even accept that we exist? There is evidence that in indigenous populations of North and South American men taking on the roles of women and living as women was (and is) occurring, similar is true for ...

  In my last post I discussed some of the rhetoric that is around at the moment and the effect it is having on the Trans movement as a whole. It would be easy to assume that a Trans Woman going out into the world would be a journey fraught with difficulties and no doubt this fear has put some off venturing out into the wider world. Let's be honest you have to have your whits about you and be sensible where you go, but as I recently discovered all is not bad as some would have us think and you can have a very pleasurable experience out there in the real world. Pink heels! A couple of weeks ago I met up with my lady friend Jen for a three day break. After meeting up and having a coffee we booked into the hotel where we were to stay for three nights. That night we elected to eat in the hotel restaurant, so once ready we met in the hotel bar for a drink before our meal. I wore a white floral dress, with pink jacket and pink heels. Normally I shy away from wearing  four inch stile...