This and That

 It is a while since I posted anything here so I would like to start with wishing all my readers a happy and prosperous New Year......

Assumption, we all do it, even though I made a rule to myself years ago to 'never assume' I find myself doing it, as an example, a friend told me that a male colleague at work had spent Christmas with a man he had met whilst walking his dog, so two single men spending Christmas together, I found myself questioning his sexuality just I suppose as I would 'assume' if he were with a woman over Christmas there was more to it than just friends...... I have no right to do this especially as I have never met him! The truth is I don't know, I should never assume, but human nature intervenes and we start to speculate when we have no right too. It happens to me as well, a good lady friend assumed that as I take so much time and trouble to look the way I do, that I would 'naturally want to be with a man'. I had a hard time explaining to her that I don't do this to attract men and in fact I am not attracted to men whatsoever, I think my words were "A man? thats the last thing I want, I know what they are like, I used to be one!"  But the point of this is try not to assume, let the facts come out in due course as it is so easy to get it completely wrong!

Over Christmas my femme side is firmly hidden away, I would so love to be my complete self on Christmas Day in a fabulous dress, but I have two daughters, young women now, and I have a duty to be their Dad, particularly on Christmas Day, so no matter what happens in the future, however I end up living my life, even if I go full time, I will always be 'Dad'  on Christmas Day for the two young people that mean the most to me.......


True friends are hard to find, you can have lots of people you are friendly with, but often true friends are something of a rarity. Real friends are very special to me especially when they happen to be female, I find female company particularly stimulating. During last year someone that I regarded as a real true friend has drifted away, she has a very busy life, but no matter how busy you are you can always find time to send a short message. Sadly that has not been the case and after quite a long friendship I have to admit she has moved on. I haven't done anything wrong, as far as I know, and I have sent her messages to no avail. Sometimes as hard as it is you just have to say good by...........

Last year (2023) was a momentous year for me, for several reasons which I will not go into here, but I have ended the year the happiest I have ever been, despite some set backs along the way. I will look back on 2023 with a lot of pleasure in the coming years as it was so special, so many dreams came true. This year I feel will be even more special, I don't know how that can possibly be, but I just have that feeling this New Year will be something very special indeed.

I hope you all have a fabulous 2024 and that all your dreams come true........




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  1. Lynn Jones12 January 2024 at 14:28

    Happy New Year and I hope you had a good Christmas.

    In the photo, are you decorating a dress rather than a tree? 🙂

    Sorry to hear about your friendship drifting away. I think it's difficult with that happens. I hope that someone new comes along to fill the gap.

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    1. Life by Andrea Raven15 January 2024 at 10:50

      Thank you Lyn, I hope your Christmas went well and you have a fabulous New Year. Ha ha, yes I thought the dress looked a bit better than a boring old tree!

      It is sad when someone for no apparent reason drifts away, friendships are important to me, possibly more so as in my position I have found it difficult to find real true friends, outside of the trans community that accept me fully as I am. But life goes on and of course if she contacts me again I would be very pleased to hear from her......

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