An Interview with Paula

This time we meet Paula from the north west of the UK

1.How do you describe yourself, (crossdresser, transvestite, transgender) ?

Transgender

2. How long have you been dressing?

I don't 'crossdress' (hate that word). I dress, and have been doing it since I was 14, so that's 47 years now.

3. Acceptance was for me, the turning point, once I had accepted who I was my life changed. What about you? When did acceptance come to you, how did it change your life and outlook regarding dressing?

Acceptance came after my divorce in 2007, when I decided to bring Paula out properly, and I have never looked back.

4. Have you ever considered transition? Would you consider it in the future?

Yes I have, and still considering it now.

5. You seem very confident when dressed, but how do you really feel?

 I feel alive, and I feel the real me has come out, a feeling of contentment and happiness comes over me.

6. I know you get out and about, tell us where you like to go, what you like to do? (No specific locations)  

I just want to be a normal girl on a weekend, and do the normal things. I always do my weekly shop at Tesco's.

7. How do you feel when you've been out?

 When I'm out I feel very confident now, and as my daytime look is jeans and a jumper I like to think I don't stand out too much. If anybody looks at me I just smile ay them. It's their problem not mine. 

 I'm proud of being transgendered


8. Do you have a favourite outfit? Describe it and explain why you like it so much.

Jeans, and T shirt. It looks so natural to me, and i feel comfortable wearing this look.


9. Us girls love heels; do you have a favourite pair? 

 All of my stiletto court shoes, and of course my thigh length boots !! lol

10. What are your thoughts on 'Passing'?

 It's my main goal, as I want to be perceived as female

11. Have you ever 'Purged' if so how did you feel after?

No I have never purged

12. Would you like to live full time as a woman?

Yes !!!!

13. Can you ever stop?

No !!!!

14. Have you or would you use a 'dressing/makeup' service? 

 Never, as I think these places take advantage of us. I know for some girls this is their only option, but for the rest of us leave well alone.
From what I see the makeup is a false representation of that person. It's best you practice yourself, otherwise you will never learn how to do it.

15. Who knows about your crossdressing?

 All of my family, some of my friends, and some of my work colleagues

16. If you could have one wish, what would it be?

To be Paula full time.

17. Where do you see your life going from here?

I still need to work, but as soon as I can I would like to go full time.
I would like to thank Paula for taking the time and trouble to answer my many questions

 The photo was kindly supplied by Paula and remains her copyright

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